Here’s another entry from one of my favorite blogs at Gottman Institute. “A Million Tiny Things”:
In the film ‘Sleepless in Seattle,’ Tom Hanks plays a widowed man (Sam Baldwin) whose son calls a radio talk show (Dr. Marcia Fieldstone) in an attempt to find his dad a new wife.
Dr. Marcia Fieldstone: Tell me what was so special about your wife?
Sam Baldwin: It was a million tiny little things that, when you added them all up, they meant we were supposed to be together, and I knew it. I knew it the first time I touched her. It was like coming home, only to no home I’d ever known. I was just taking her hand to help her out of a car and I knew it. It was like magic.
His response gets at our motto of ‘small things often.’
On their own, a million tiny little things don’t seem that important, but when you add them all up, they make a big difference.
Can you think of one tiny little thing you can incorporate into your relationship today? How might that one thing create a new cycle that affirms what is important to you via your actions? How might that shift resulting thoughts and feelings to and from your spouse?